Wednesday, 20 April 2016

The lies we tell

I am a good mother. I also lie.

I like to think I'm a pretty honest person. I don't usually lie, but I find myself telling a lot of 'little' white lies to my little girl, mostly for her own good or my own sanity. I'm not advocating lying to our kids, but the truth is everyone lies! As long as they aren't big or hurtful lies, these little white lies seem to weasel their way into our lives. It's just a part of parenting right?

These are some of the lies I told this week...

1. "Eat your breakfast or Bunny Bunny will." (Bunny Bunny is a stuffed toy rabbit.)

2. "We're leaving now." As I tried to get my toddler out of the little soft play area knowing full well we're here for another 10 minutes.

3. "Bye, I'm leaving without you." Heck no was I leaving my crazy toddler alone in a playground.

4. "You wont get your milk if you don't finish your lunch." Yeah, I'll definitely cave on that one.

5. "Eat your dinner or you're going straight to bed." I'd be crazy to send my toddler to bed hungry, she'd just wake up every 30 minutes wanting food. I am probably going to give her yogurt for dinner instead..

6. "Only Daddies and Kitkats go in garages." I say that because this lie so far has made the garage a comfortable toddler-free zone not by force but by my child's choice. One less place where I have to constantly say 'no don't touch'.

7. "You're the best at climbing stairs". Um, yeah, she isn't. I love her but she got her dad's clumbiness. That girl has no spatial awareness and if I didn't grab her arm every time she decided to 'walk' down the stairs she'd fall flat on her face.

8. "Mummy will be back soon". Said as I put her down for a nap. I'm not entering that room again until 2 hours is up or the screaming starts, whichever comes first.

9. "Sorry baby we have no fruit bars left, you'll have to eat the banana instead." I have a whole box of those fruit bars in the pantry, but you aren't getting them.

10. "It's yummy, you'll like it". No she probably wont like the cold squished up broccoli that I wouldn't even eat.

11. "Don't worry, it wont hurt at all". My little girl had her 18month shots a few days ago, I used this one and then a few seconds later a couple of lovely nurses jammed needles in her arms. I am pretty sure she was not too happy with that, judging by the screaming.

12. "Sorry baby, I don't know where the crayons are." Yes I do but I am not playing this game again. Put you in your chair, take you out again, and then do it again every 5 seconds when you decide you want to draw, then don't, the do, then don't...

13. "Daddy would love to play with you". Yeah, I'm just tired and it's daddy's turn now.

14. "You cant play with those toys, they are sleeping...shhhh." Sometimes I just don't want her to throw all the soft toys around the room.


As she gets older I am sure more and more of these 'white lies' will come out. I already have a few up my sleeve  like "don't wee in the pool or it will turn blue" and "carrots will help you see in the dark".

What are some of the lies you tell your kids?


Tuesday, 12 April 2016

When bad things happen, buy a lotto ticket

For those of you who regularly follow my blog and facebook page may be aware that my little family has had some very tough times recently.

I took a little hiatus from blogging for a few weeks while we came to terms with the sudden and unexpected death of my brother-in-law who was a new dad and only 33 years old! It has been heartbreaking for our family and no more so than to his partner and their little boy. We celebrated his life in a way that he would have loved, at the Wests Tigers Leagues Club, the NRL team he would have followed to the moon and back. I have never been to a funeral with some many people (literally hundreds) full of funny, loving and ridiculous stories of someone's very short life but it showed everyone what an impact you can make on people in a short time.

Thank you everyone for your words of support during this time.
I decided to make a return to my blog this week only for my little girl to be struck down with what was thought to be MEASLES on the eve of her 18 month vaccinations, which funnily enough would have vaccinated her against said measles. One night we had to race her down to the emergency room what she started vomiting after days of high fevers, diarrhea and body consuming rashes.

On the plus side the doctors and nurses LOVED her! They were playing games with her and making her giggle like crazy. She was being the most upbeat sick child ever. The doctor even wrote on her discharge paper that she was a 'very cheerful child'.

The third downer for the week was when one lovely soul sideswiped our car leaving massive scratches and dents. I returned to my car after an interview for a dream job which I was so confident about (still waiting to hear about that one) to find my car damaged and no hint of who did it. Sigh... to make it worse I was so angry and flustered I backed into a tree, leaving a second dent on the back of the car. Sigh...
Things just didn't go well for us this week, but I figure bad things come in threes right? So surely I have used up the bad luck for a while and should be due some good luck by now. I might go buy a lotto ticket.

But all said and done, at the end of the day I get to snuggle up with this beauty.

As a mother I get to see the (usually) smiling face of my little girl and remember that she loves me unconditionally and that I am (at the moment) her everything, as she is mine. I am so lucky that I get to call her my daughter. So life isn't that bad at all!


Monday, 4 April 2016

Protecting your home from dustmites and allergens

* This post is brought to you by Bosistos. Looking for Mama Me was gifted products for the purpose of review.

Living in my parents house while we build our own comes with a lot of challenges. Luckily it is a large house but four adults and one non-stop mess making toddler makes for hard work keeping it dust-free particularly given we have two households worth of clutter. This makes my hate of dirt and clutter magnify!

I really hate the build up of dust and dirty fabrics. I think it stems from childhood asthma and hayfever. Given my own sensitivities I have been pretty vigilant with keeping my daughter's toys, clothes and bedding clean but I never realised that just washing bedding and soft toys in the washing machine generally doesn't kills dust mites.

I always thought I was doing the right thing and protecting my little girl against little nasties like dust mites by regularly washing her favourite Bunny and other soft toys, regularly changing her sheets and frequently washing her bedding, but I've recently found out that washing alone might not kill dust mites that can make allergies and asthma worse! Now I've started using the Bosisto's Dust Mite Wash once a month and the Bosisto’s EucoFresh Allergen Laundry Liquid for regular washing.  The Bosisto's Eucalyptus Dust Mite Spray is also great for the things that aren't so easy to pop into the washing machine like mattresses, pillows and curtains.

Dust mites like to hide in all sorts of things, so it great to give the following a regular dust mite treatment:
  • Soft teddies
  • clothes
  • Sheet
  • Blankets and Quilts
  • Mattress
  • Pillows
  • Curtains
  • Carpet
  • furniture
To make sure you get rid of the nasty dust mites and allergens spray mattresses and curtains regularly. Then treat all your washable items with the once a month treatment and follow up with the frequent use laundry liquid. The Bosisto's treatments are so effective there's no need to follow up with any other treatment!

The Bosisto's range is based on natural eucalyptus oil rather than strong chemicals so I feel comfortable using them for my family and the milder Bosisto’s EucoFresh Allergen Laundry Liquid reduces the dust mite allergens, great for sensitive skin allowing you to use in everyday washing. I also love the eucalyptus scent, I'm a bit addicted to it actually, I love the eucalyptus smell!

Dust mites are simple to control so don't let them take over your life. You can find these products in the laundry aisle of Woolworths, Coles and online at For more information on new products visit Bosisto’s on Facebook.


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Monday, 14 March 2016

Best Ever Peanut Butter Cookies


I went to my grandmothers place the other day and as usual she offered me a biscuit. She loves these crunchy peanut butter cookies she gets from Aldi but she's finding her teeth don't handle them quite as well as they used to (she's 90 years old), so I promised to bake her some Peanut Butter Cookies that were easier for her to eat.

I have been making these amazing Peanut Butter Sugar Cookies for years and years and they have never ever failed me. There are only three ingredients so how can you go wrong AND they are ready start to finish in 15minutes!

They are the most seriously simple delicious Best Ever Peanut Butter Cookies.

  • 1 cup of caster sugar (super-fine sugar)
  • 1 cup of peanut butter
  • 1 large egg lightly beaten
How to make it

Step 1. Mix all the ingredients together in a bowl. This should form a thick dough-like mixture.

Step 2. Roll mixture into balls, approximately 1teaspoon, and place on a lined baking tray about 5cm apart. Lightly press a fork on the top of each ball to flatten slightly.

Step 3. Bake in a preheated moderate oven (180degrees Celsius or 320degrees Fahrenheit) for 15 minutes.

Step 4. Cool on a cooling rack for 5 minutes.

Step 5. Eat!

Try to limit consumption, these bad boys are nothing but sugar and peanut butter!



(Recipe source : Unknown... write somewhere in my recipe book many years ago and altered over the years)

Saturday, 5 March 2016

The fraud of motherhood

This week I am feeling like a fraud.

Do you have those days when you feel like you are just pretending at this whole 'parenting' thing? I mean parenting itself is really just a big game of making it up as you go, but some days it feels like your attempts to play the game are about to unravel and you'll be exposed as a fraud.

This was me most of the week.

My daughter has really been pushing my buttons the last few days. I think she is desperate to communicate with me but the words just aren't coming out yet and it has resulted in a series of epic tantrums!

The worst of them came when I thought I'd go to the supermarket and get our grocery shopping done. What was I thinking? Her tantrums had been getting increasingly worse all morning so why did I not expect one to occur in the supermarket?

We got the carpark and I pulled her out of the car while she was quite happily playing with her little lion friend and took her upstairs to the supermarket. I thought 'this is going quite well, we'll be ok.'

I proceed to put her in the shopping trolley seat and do it up. No tears there, good sign.

I walk into the supermarket and think 'I'll give her a snack to keep her happy' so I grab one of those 'free fruit for kids' banana's (side-note - best idea ever). This was the beginning of the end.

The mere sight of me peeling the banana caused her lip to quiver, her face turn red and I knew it was coming. The whining started as she turned her head away from the banana and then she started screaming. I'm talking the kind of screaming where every single person in the store stops and looks at me because I clearly must be torturing the poor little thing. Then she starts kicking and throwing her body back against the metal bars of the shopping trolley. I can feel every eye on me.

In my wisdom I think 'I'll take her out and calm her down, she probably just doesn't want to be in the trolley' and at this point I just want to calm her. Bad idea. Arms flailing, legs kicking, increasing screaming. She doesn't want to be held, she doesn't want to be put on the ground. It felt like hours but was probably only 10 minutes but by now I'm in tears and I hear a woman mutter to herself as she walks past. So I try to hold the screaming child in one arm while digging through my bag with the other hoping desperately to find something that will sedate her. I find a fruit bar. The frantically pull off the wrapping and shove it in the Koala's mouth. Screaming subsides, legs stop kicking, arms start clinging to the little fruit bar.

I wipe off my tears and hold onto my child as I push the trolley with my free hand. I try to hold my head high and pretend no one noticed.

The tantrums didn't stop there, there was another as I tried to put her in the car to go home. Another when I gave her lunch, another when I wouldn't let her touch a Redback spider. Another when I took her inside to change her nappy. Another when I stopped her climbing up and down the stairs for the 100th time. Another when I gave her dinner. Another when I took her out of the bath.

By bedtime I felt I was failing at the parent thing, all I had done all day was yell at my child or give in to her ridiculous demands. I was waiting for someone to come in and tell me I wasn't doing a good enough job and I wasn't fit to be a mother.

The truth is, we are all frauds in a way. We are all just muddling through it and doing the best we can.

The reality is I'm doing a great job. As parents we all have bad days, we all have days when we feel like we aren't up to the job.

Everyone has bad days. Mums and toddlers included. It doesn't make us bad parents if our kids have tantrums or if we give them a treat once in a while to keep them happy, it just makes us human. So remember on those days you feel like giving up, you aren't alone and you aren't the only one, we are all in this parenting thing with you.

You're doing a great job!


Monday, 29 February 2016

5 ways we should be more like toddlers

I've been thinking lately about how we all spend so much time trying to teach our kids how to be adults, maybe what we should be doing to trying to teach ourselves to be more like them! Think about it, toddlers are happier than they'll be the rest of their lives. They are joyous, they are loving, they have no fear.

Wouldn't we all be a little bit happier if we took a page from their book? I know I would.

1. No Judgement!

This is a biggy. We all know how horrible mummy-judging is getting, even lunch boxes aren't safe. We should all take a lead from our kids and stop judging each other!

Toddlers don't judge, they don't care whether we are feeding them meat and 3 veg or if we are cooking them a gourmet feast of organic superfoods. They just care that they are getting fed. They don't care if we are super mom or a hot mess, they just care that we love them. We need to get off each others backs and let mothers choose what is best for their child because their kids don't care so neither should we.

2. No embarrassment.

Toddlers have no shame right? Have you ever been out with your toddler and they run up to a stranger and say hello? Mine does it all the time. Does yours fall over on their bottom, have a giggle and get up and do it again? Mine does and she doesn't care. She does what she wants and doesn't care what people think. I'm sure when she starts talking she'll say what she wants too.

I wish I cared less about what people think and did more of what I wanted to do, don't you?

3. Play is key.

Play is the key to learning. Children use play to learn new things, to develop skills and have fun. As adults and mothers we spend so much time looking after everyone else. We go to work. We cook dinner, lunch and breakfast. We clean the house. We're constantly on the go and count going to the toilet as 'me time'. We should put more focus on the things we have fun doing. It helps us develop and grow as a person. Don't you feel like a better person and a better mother when you're happy? Maybe we should all start playing a little more and stressing a little less. And you know that old saying right? All work and no play....

4. They radiate positivity.

Maybe not during one of their epic tantrums but most of the time they are happy. Toddlers don't have the weight of a world of decisions and responsibilities on their shoulders. Their minds aren't constantly ticking over and thinking about all the bad in the world.

We get bogged down in the world's negativity, all the war and death, the car crashes and court cases. Maybe we all need to look at the little things more and appreciate their beauty. Have you ever noticed the joy that comes over a toddler's face when they see a puppy? When they splash in the water? Taking joy in those little things and letting the light shine from there is what we should all try doing a little more of, and complaining about life's problems a little less.

5. They aren't afraid to try new things.

Have you ever watched your child and thought 'you have no fear?' I do. Have you noticed how they'll run up to a strange dog just because they love dogs? Mine does. Sometimes a toddler's lack of fear goes too far when they don't recognise the dangers around them, but I think adults often go too far the other way and are too afraid to do anything out of fear of the consequence. Let's all take a leaf out of our children's book and do something that scares us. It could be something small like going to a movie alone or attending a party where you don't know anyone but letting go of that fear is the goal.

Be fearless and have fun!


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Monday, 22 February 2016

Toddler vs Newborn - Tips from a Pro with Teacher Types

Do you have a toddler? Do you also have a newborn or are expecting to expand your family soon? This week I talked to Lauren Hunt, Early Years Teacher and blogger from Teacher Types who just had a beautiful little baby boy. She also has a threenager! Here is how she managed the needs of a newborn while keeping her toddler entertained.

If you want to find out more about Lauren and her blog, you can find her on her blog or on Instagram or Facebook.  

Tell us about you and your blog!

Hi! I'm Lauren, mummy + teacher blogger at Teacher Types from Adelaide SA. I have an (almost) 3 year old daughter and a 1 month old baby boy. So life is pretty busy! I'm on maternity leave from teaching, but have always taught the early years of school - for the past 10 years now! My blog Teacher Types started out just as a hobby two years ago, but has grown into so much more. I've met and collaborated with some fantastic people - and sitting at my lap top tippy typing away is one of my favourite things to do when I have 'me time'.

You've just had a new baby, how did you help your toddler get used to the idea of having a newborn around?

She did really well!! We did as much as we could to prepare her. In the hospital she had her own 'big sister bag' of special things and activities, she coped well with all of the different babysitters she had over that week, and she absolutely adores her brother and just wants to touch and hold him all the time! Thankfully we haven't seen any jealously or negative feelings towards him. I feel like she's grown a whole year in just a month, she's so independent - big girl bed, toilet training & dummy free.

What are your top tips for entertaining a toddler so you can focus on the needs of a newborn?

The key here is keeping things new, interesting and exciting. A few minutes spent tidying up and putting out some new toys and activities can work wonders for the toddler (Miss M has started asking me "what did you put out for me today mummy?") I also find it helps if you rotate their toys so that not everything is always out - they can get overwhelmed with choice. A special toy box or new tub of play dough can be handy when you're busy feeding - and also setting clear boundaries ("don't climb over mummy when she's feeding"). Oh and always keep the remote control within reach!!

What are you favourite activities for young toddlers?

Here are my top 4!

- Colour Sorting (the cute little tubs are from Howards Storage World)
- Rainbow Rice (click here to learn how to make it - there is a secret ingredient you wouldn't expect!)
- Small World Play (this one is for the well known story 'We're Going on a Bear Hunt')
- Straw Play (so simple but keeps them busy!)

Being an Early Years Teacher, how do you see play contributing to children's development?

"Play is the work of the child" - Maria Montessori.

Play is the way that children make sense of the world around them. They act out familiar situations and scenarios in order to process the world around them. Playing with dolls, in a play kitchen, talking to their teddies are all examples of this. So much learning happens when they play! Construction with blocks, exploring nature, being physically active... Never think that a child is "just playing". It's so much more!



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