(husband is rocking our baby who just won't sleep)
him: this is so hard
me: yep! well, now you know what it is like for me, all day every day!
him: yeah, but it's your job.
So this conversation left me a little annoyed. That said, he didn't mean to offend and is a great dad! But it made me think about how hard this job is and why it is a 'job' that is it belittled by so many.
A few days before this conversation, I saw a segment on one of those terrible morning shows (which I'm sad to say I now watch) which questioned whether being a full time mum is a 'job'. One (ignorant) English woman, lets just call her Katie, said 'No, otherwise it would be paid. Being a stay at home mum is not a job'. Well, I beg to differ! It's the hardest and lowest paid job ever.
Because we do it all day, in the evening and the weekend, does that mean it's not a job? If we are able to afford to pay someone to look after our children, that is a job but not our job. Can we then go off and do a 'real' job so that people consider we are now doing real work? Then, inevitably, someone else will tell us we are bad mums because we have put our baby in childcare and its our job to look after them. Did this woman put her baby at only a few week old in childcare and go back to work because being a mum wasn't 'real work'? Did she think it was beneath her? Did she even have kids of her own?
A week or so later, I saw this same woman make a statement that she would never send her kids to public schools (as we call them in Australia), because she would have to see SAHMs drop their kids off at school and may have to consort with a 'lower class of people' (her words).
Being able to afford hundreds of thousands of dollars to send her children to private school does not make her a better class of person, it just means she has more dollars than sense. Private schools have their merits, but the risk of seeing a tired SAHM at public school is not one of them! A stay at home mum who wants to be there for her children is not a lesser person. How is being a 'social commentator' who earns a living judging others a 'better class' of person than a nurse or teacher? or police officer or social workers? I don't know about you, but no teachers or nurses I know can afford to send their children to private school.
I feel like being a mum is the hardest job I've ever had, and it doesn't stop at the end of the day, I can't just clock off. But it is the best job I've ever had! Congratulations to all the stay at home mums and the working mums, you are all doing such a great job and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!