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Just so we're clear, this is not a post that will teach you how to self settle your baby. This is in fact, the exact opposite!
Anyone familiar with the Wonder Weeks has probably heard the term 'four month sleep regression'.
I have to say I've been skeptical of the Wonder Weeks, I never really noticed anything different, until Leap 4! Suddenly my baby went from waking once or twice a night to waking at 10pm, 12am, 1am, 3am, 5am, 7am! Seriously, what happened to my well sleeping bub? She has been such a bad day sleeper, the only thing getting me through the days was that she slept well at night.
This was the start of the 4 month sleep regression, albeit closer to 5
This was tough.
I became resentful of the mums who would boast their ability to put their baby down in the cot and they would just drift off to sleep. I found myself getting angry at the constant stream on the baby forums of posts such as 'this is how to get your baby to self settle' or 'all you need to do is....'. Really? No. This is now you got YOUR baby to self settle. This is not how I get MY baby to self settle.
I became so tired of walking my baby around the house for hours, bouncing as I went, praying my baby would fall asleep. A couple of weeks ago I finally decided to follow one method to teach my baby to self settle. It went like this. 5 simple steps...
Step 1. Put baby in cot when calm and drowsy.
Step 2. Settle baby for 2 minutes then leave the room.
Step 3. Leave baby for 4 minutes. If baby cries, return and re-settle in cot.
Step 4. Repeat and gradually increase time spams in between.
Step 5. Babies should start to have pauses between cries and eventually sleep.
HAHAHAHAHA! That went well. NOT! After one whole hour of listening to my poor little koala scream as I tried to convince her to self settle in her cot. My pats on her bottom, my holding her hands could not console my poor little screamer. I eventually gave in and resumed my bouncing route around the house feeling like an absolute failure.
Apparently my baby was suppose to calm when I went in every 4 minutes to soothe her. She was meant to stop crying. She was meant to fall asleep. Well, she did stop crying, for about 10 seconds at a time, but only to regather her strength to continue screaming.
Well, I have not reattempted this 'self settling' since. But that's ok, my baby has decided sleep is for the weak anyway and given up sleeping in the daylight hours!
Oh 4 month sleep regression, please give me my baby back!
... and then teach her to sleep ...
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