She's 8 months old and I'm already ruining her life! Ok, so that is a tad dramatic, but does anyone else feel like the first child is one big experiment so the second child can benefit from what we've learnt 'ruining' our first?
I'd like to issue an apology to my baby for all these mistakes!
I'm sorry I didn't trust my instincts and have taught you to rely on my rocking you to sleep. When you were born I hadn't had a baby before and I loved your cuddles so I didn't try hard enough to teach you good sleep habits.
I'm also sorry I tried to force you into a routine. It was what the books told me to do. I'm sorry I didn't follow your lead and go with the flow.
I'm sorry I bought you a cheap uncomfortable baby carrier. Why oh why did I buy the fancy expensive pram and the cheap baby carrier! I absolutely use the carrier 1000 times more than the pram which my baby can't stand being in for more than 2 minutes!! This is one of my biggest regrets! My baby carrier is a life saver, sometimes it is the only thing that gets you a to sleep and I'm severely regretting buying the cheapest one, thinking 'I'll only use this occasionally'... yeah, more like 'occasional hours every day!'.
I'm sorry I was so over-enthusiastic with my baby craft projects and finished none. I'm sorry I never knitted you that beanie or painted that picture for your wall or decorated you those little singlets. I think I would have been better off picking one thing I could do and actually finishing it!
I'm sorry I didn't teach you independence. When you were a newborn and for those first few months, I had no idea how to entertain you so I just spent all my time singing, cuddling and playing with you instead of letting you explore. I'm sorry you now rely on me for entertainment. Now at 8 months I am desperately trying to teach you independent play, but all you want is to play with mummy!
I'm sorry I cried when you cried. I know you were crying because you needed something and I was crying because you were crying. I'm sorry I didn't realise my crying made you cry more.
On that note, I'm sorry I didn't know what you wanted. I'm sorry I couldn't yet read your cues. I'm sorry I didn't notice your clenched fists when you were tired or your increasing yell when you were hungry.
I'm sorry I had all these thoughts before you were born about what I shouldn't do, like give you a pacifier. As a result you rely on me for soothing. You need me to rock or feed you for comfort. I'm now sure it would have been easier to get rid of the dummy than spend that last 8 months rocking or feeding you constantly every time you are cranky.
Finally, I'm sorry I was so hard on myself. I'm sorry I was worried. I'm sorry I was stressed. I'm sorry I was over-cautious. I was doing the best I could. I have a beautiful baby and for that I should pat myself on the back!
One thing I'm not sorry about though, is that I cherished you, that I took thousands of photos, that I showered you with love.
To my experimental baby. I'm sorry. I promise I'll be a better mother second time around!
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